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Sunday, January 29, 2006

Just Thinkin'

Nile let me sleep in until 8:52am this morning, so I woke up feeling fresher than usual. I headed to the other room to change his diaper and became engaged in an annoying struggling with all the snaps on his PJs. As if trying to do up 100 snaps on a squirming baby's pajamas isn't tough enough, it always seems like once I get them all done up I realize that one of the snaps (usually at the very bottom towards his toe) isn't snapped up to it's proper companion, meaning I have to undo the whole thing and start over.

Anyway, as I was going through this wonderful routine this morning, I thought to myself, who the hell designs these things? And then I thought, next time a mom-to-be asks me for any advice I'm going to tell them not to buy any baby clothes with buttons or snaps. Just stick to zippers. Snaps aren't worth the grief.

And then I started thinking that it would be fun to compile a list of similar observations from everyone here at BHN. The list could be fun to give to future pregnant friends or make into some kind of a baby shower card or something, or just to amuse ourselves with our infinite and obscure knowledge.

Which leads me to my point - This post is a call out to all you mammas to send me your gems of useful information, advice and observations about parenting. We are all experts, afterall. It doesn't have to be earth-shattering (obviously, since my contribution is a snaps vs. zippers epiphany).


  • At 3:28 PM, Blogger Melissa said…

    Mine is about sleep. Some babies learn how to go to sleep on their own, and some babies have to be taught. C and I had all these friends tell us that things would get easier at X weeks or months, and those timeframes would come and go, but nothing got easier. I was losing it on a daily basis. Then we decided to show A how to go to sleep on a flat surface by herself, and everything got better.

    I might think of more later.

  • At 9:05 AM, Blogger landismom said…

    Great idea. Although, I have to disagree with the zippers-are-always-better concept. Because wriggling two-year-old plus full-body-zip jammies has some bad potential!

    My contribution to this list would be: kids are not all the same. Even after you've had one, don't be confident that you know what to expect with the second.

  • At 7:45 PM, Blogger Tallis Ford said…

    Mine is also sleep-related. It turns out that some babies don't actually know how to go to sleep when they're tired (even when they're just 2-3 weeks old). Learn the warning signs of tired vs. overtired and do everything you can early to get them sleepy and to sleep before they hit overtired.

    Whatever unexpected emotion, experience, ordeal, that you encounter in early-motherhood-- let yourself feel what you're feeling. If you're depressed, do everything you can do get the support you need but don't waste energy feeling bad about feeling bad. If your baby cries all the time and you feel resentful or like this wasn't what even your well-informed mommyself bargained for, don't begrudge it. You can trust that things will get better but also know it will be frustrating as hell until it does and you don't have to feel bad about that. Lots of crying isn't great no matter how you cut it.

    If you have one of those angelbabies people talk about-- make sure to keep yourself humble, your's will catch up with you in his toddler years (or so i'm told).

  • At 10:17 PM, Blogger Tammy said…

    Hmmm... where to start...

    First, a philosophical tip:

    For your own sanity, don't get all up in arms when someone gives you unsolicited parenting advice or advice that contradicts what you believe or know to be right, even if your perception is that they seem to be criticizing your abilities. Most people are just trying to be helpful (and from time to time, they end up being right and you're wrong), and the rest are too stupid to be worth your emotional energy. Practise smiling politely and saying noncommittal things like, "Thanks! I'll give that some thought!"

    And now some practical tips:

    Hypoallergenic, environmentally friendly laundry soap is generally cheaper than the soaps that are marketed just for babies and it's just as baby-friendly. And don't use fabric softener sheets! They deposit fabric softener onto clothes and sheets and can irritate babies' skin. Also, if your baby's skin still seems to be mysteriously irritated, try washing your own clothes in the same soap. It could be that the harsh detergent you're using for your own laundry is causing the problem as your baby's face spends so much time snuggled against your chest.


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